Let’s face it, we live in a world that is a little obsessed with Numbers. From the job site that will write you up for being one minute late, to the anxious girlfriend that has called you three times in the last five minutes because you’re 20 minutes late getting home from work. There are women that exclusively pump their breast milk because they’re just not confident in not knowing exact ounces their baby is taking in. There are employers that schedule meetings for odd times to make sure you are more exact.” The meeting is from 10:03 AM to 11:03 AM.” Our obsession with time gets a little ridiculous. Here are a few things that your child doesn’t have to set an exact date for.
Number 1, sleeping through the night. There are so many people that believe six months is the golden number. In reality, most children won’t sleep through the night for years without extensive measures being done on your part to make it happen, and that is still no guarantee. I would personally rather cut out the two hour bedtime routine, and the stress of societys pressures while I’m at it. You’re not failing because your baby doesn’t sleep through the night. There has actually been studies that show babies that don’t sleep through the night are less likely to suffer from SIDs.
That fact alone stopped me in my tracks. I stopped trying to make my son sleep through the night and started trying to soak up the cuddles, and enjoy the coffee in the morning.
Number two, self soothing. Another supposable six month milestone.
Have you ever called someone in the middle of the night because you just needed someone to talk to? Have you ever started crying and reached out your arms because you needed a hug? Have you ever stared up at the ceiling just wishing someone was there to hold you? Just think about it for a second. If we as adults can’t self soothe why do we expect our infants to? I don’t know where this idea came from But it needs to go back to where ridiculous ideas are formed. Our babies need us to hold them and make them feel secure. It will build our relationship with them and will help them become more self-sufficient adults.
Number three, you should wean your baby by 12 months exactly!
Come on guys, who comes up with these numbers? The natural weaning age is between 2 1/2 and seven years old. It’s not weird, freaky, or sexual for an older child to still breast-feed, it’s completely natural! It’s America that has made it abnormal, and these imagined perfect stopping points need to go away. There is a super wide range of average because every child has different needs. No one guideline can fit every uniquely individual baby, and we should respect that.
If you are a new mom or dad you can take a big sigh of relief. You don’t have to adhere to all of these crazy deadlines. Just slow down, take a breath, and enjoy your baby. It won’t be like this for l